Hope, Fibromyalgia, Despair and Contradiction

Hope, Fibromyalgia, Despair and Contradiction

Hope is like the waves of the ocean crashing on the beach. At first your feet get wet, and over the time, the waves get bigger, bringing in more hope, making you more wet. Eventually the waves of hope completely engulf you leaving wet with hope.

Then the waves recede back into the tumultuous ocean to leave all but your feet dry again.

waves_of_hope_fibro_despairPain is like the waves of the ocean crashing on the beach. At first your feet get wet, and over the time, the waves get bigger, bringing in more pain, making you more wet. Eventually the waves of pain completely engulf you, leaving you wet with pain.

Then the waves recede back into the chaotic ocean to leave all but your feet dry again.

Despair is like the waves of the ocean crashing on the beach. At first your feet get wet, and over the time, the waves get bigger, bringing in more despair, making you more wet. Eventually the waves of despair completely engulf you, leaving you wet with despair.

Then the waves recede back into the turbulent ocean to leave all but your feet dry again.

With the tides, the waves of hope, pain and despair come and go, engulfing you, but eventually leaving you dry and hopeless, with less pain and less despair. The contradictory waves of fibromyalgia are a fickle thing always at the beckoning of the tumultuous sea.

CallahanWriter ©

IS FIBROMYALGIA THE END OF LIFE AS WE KNOW IT? PART 3

IS FIBROMYALGIA THE END OF LIFE AS WE KNOW IT? PART 3

Three Ways To Live A Life Of Fibromyalgia With Meaning, Joy And Hope

This is the third article on coping with fibromyalgia where I have asked the question “Is fibromyalgia the end of life as we know it?” The answer is yes, your old life is over. Click on Is Fibromyalgia The End Of Life As We Know it Part One for the first article in this series  and click on Is Fibromyalgia The End Of Life As We Know It Part Two

The new life, the life with fibromyalgia can still have meaning, joy and hope. They key to this new life filled with fibromyalgia is to make adjustments and learn what is possible with an invisible chronic illness.

In the past two articles we learned the need to let go of the guilt we feel for not being able to do what we once did. We covered, letting go of the past and managing our expectations. We also discussed knowing our limitations and making allowances for what we can no longer do. This third installment is much more positive because we will dwell on improving our fibro ridden life.

Let’s look at three ways on how we can live a life of meaning, joy and hope.

1. Reinvent Yourself

For most people, the onset of fibromyalgia will turn your life into a chaotic mess dealing with all the symptoms that come with the disease. Generally, you cannot do the things you used to do before fibromyalgia became your chronic companion.

For me, I spent three or four years looking for a diagnosis and a treatment plan. Then I had to get used to it all. Even with a treatment plan, including pain management I realized I couldn’t go back to what I was doing prior to my illness. If I was going to have any sense of meaning in my life and any chance of joy or hope, I would need to reinvent myself.

It is hard to admit the life you once knew is gone for good. With the life sucking chronic pain, pulling the lifeblood out of me, I could no longer do what I used to, so making a long story short I got into writing. So now I am a blogger and a writer, which is very flexible and give my life meaning. Especially since most of what I blog about is fibromyalgia and Christian topics.

As luck would have it, I used to write in the distant past. I enjoyed it and even did some professional technical writing for a while. With my laptop, I can write while resting in my recliner. With the laptop resting on my lap, I can create an article for a blog post or I can work on my novel or create a new short story. This reinvented life is as flexible as my new life with fibro demands.

I don’t know what will work for you. That is something you will need to decide. If you’re lucky, you may still be able to do what you did before the onset of chronic pain, you may just need more flexibility.

fibro_end_of_life_part3With my reinvented self I do not have to worry about going to an office or punching a time card. I can write between naps. It gives me a purpose. I don’t know about you, but I cannot live a life without any sort of purpose and meaning.

I’ve had fibromyalgia for more than thirty years, although it wasn’t properly diagnosed for more than eleven years. I’ve had time to figure out this important step. There was a period of about four years where my time was occupied by doctor visits, sleeping, and watching TV because I couldn’t concentrate on anything else.

I still have episodes like this. But when I am up to it, I have a meaningful activity that gives me a sense of purpose. What new or modified activities can you think of that would give your life meaning and a sense of purpose. Don’t worry if the answers don’t come right away. But if you keep at it, you will figure out a purpose driven activity for the new you.

2. Manage Expectations

We touched on it previously in this series of articles, but I feel it is of such importance that it is worth touching on again and that is managing your expectations of what you can or cannot do.

I don’t know why, but there is almost always guilt associated with saying to yourself or others that you cannot do something you once found common place. Since I touched on guilt previously, I’ll just suggest this little nugget of insight about dealing with the expectations of what you can no longer do.

Instead of saying “I can no longer do that” reply by saying “while I can no longer do that, I can do this . . .” It sounds more positive and positive self talk is very important.

When your constant companion is chronic pain, fatigue and the sensations of an achy flu all over your body, sucking the life out of you, it is important to avoid guilt whenever and however you can. I am not talking about the guilt of sinning. I am talking about the unnecessary guilt we give ourselves for failure to live up to our own and others expectations of ourselves. The third thing we can do to make our new life as a fibromite better, is to manage other peoples expectations of what we can do.

Because we don’t look sick, many of the people who knew us before we had fibromyalgia will ask us do things we used to do. They will expect it of us. So what we need to do is say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry, but I can no longer do that because of fibromyalgia, but I can do this . . . .”

It is difficult to manage your own expectations of yourself when you compare yourself now to the person you once were. It is even more difficult to manage other peoples expectations of you now your new set of clothes is made from the popular new brand of fibromyalgia. I speak from decades of experience of living with chronic pain and fatigue.

3. Pacing Yourself

I swear, if I hear one more person tell me to pace myself and learn what my limits are, I think I will puke. Having said that, I want to mention it to you because it is so important. It is always a good thing to keep in mind because pacing ourselves is not something we are accustomed to doing.

Trying to pace ourselves is like placating this evil illness, we call fibromyalgia. I don’t want to pace myself because I don’t want to give into this disease. But I know, deep down, if I don’t learn to pace myself, I will not win the race between me and that f-bomb, fibromyalgia. I want to win, or at least peacefully coexist with it.

If we don’t learn to pace ourselves, then we will overdo it and, as we all know, fibromyalgia shows no mercy, it has no grace, it demands consequences to our actions however unfair that may seem. So if we want to get anywhere outside of our bed of pain, we have to pace ourselves.

We need to understand that there are things we can do if we pace ourselves and there are thing we can’t do. What we might have accomplished in a day, back before fibro set in, may take a week to do now. But if we pace ourselves, in the long run, we are better off.

Life as we once knew it, is now gone for good, or at least until modern science can develop a cure or a better treatment plan. However, at least for me, these three items previously mentioned help to cope with fibro much better and allow me some sense of normalcy. They give me a sense of meaning, joy and hope for the future.

There will be at least one more article in this series and maybe two so click on the follow button so you’ll know when those posts arrive.

Troy Wagstaff ©

This is written for informational purposes only and not for medical advice. I assume no liability for the application of this information. Please see your health care provider for any medical advice.

Joy Of Loving – Love Is Stronger Than Fear

Joy Of Loving – Love Is Stronger Than Fear

“If we want to avoid the suffering of someone leaving us, we will never experience the joy of loving. And love is stronger than fear, life stronger than death, hope stronger than despair. We have to trust that the risk of loving is always worth taking.” (Henri J.M. Nouwen)

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Living Sermon by Edgar A. Guest


 

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Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the places you can. All the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as you can. John Wesley


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Do what you can and pray for what you cannot do.

 


 

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God gave us mouths that close and ears that don’t. That must tell us something…


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Stress makes you believe everything has to happen right now…Faith reassures you that everything will happen in Gods Timing.

 


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The first to forgive is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forgive is the happiest.

 


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Forgiveness: For if ye forgive men their trespasses, you Heavenly Father will forgive you. CallahanWriter.

 


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Please forgive us our trespasses as we forgive others their trespasses against us.

 


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Forgiveness allows you to stop carrying the burden and pain associated with whatever hurt you.

 


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Forgiveness is more important to the victim than it is for the victimizer.

 


 

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When God speaks and a man that men will always will be right. Thomas s. Monson.


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Everything happens for a reason. Oh really? Everything happens for one of two reasons…Consequences or because God wills it so.

 

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Trusting God’s plan for your everyday life is equally  as important as trusting God’s plan for your eternal life.

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Jonah And The Whale: A Story Of Hope

Jonah and the Whale A Story Of Hope

The prophet Jonah being swallowed by a whale and restored again to dry ground. What a story! Is it a true story or an allegory? What can we learn from this magnificent story as Christians?

If you consider an endorsement by our Savior when he referred to the sign of Jonah (referencing the three days and nights) then yes, the story of Jonah is indeed true. First of all the Old Testament talks about Jonah as a prophet in II Kings 14:25. Then in the New Testament, Matthew 12:39-41 The Savior talks about the life of the prophet Jonah. There are a few more references in the Gospels about Jonah.

That’s good enough for me.

If you are not familiar with the details of Jonah, read Jonah 1-4, a very short book in the Old Testament, but worth every verse. It is a powerful story, just one of the many that must have been a part of Jonah’s life, but the only one we know about.

The Lord command’s Jonah to go preach the gospel to Nineveh so that it wont be destroyed. Jonah refuses to do what the Lord told him to do and runs away, or at least tries to run away from the Lord toward Tarshish.

Jonah hops on a boat bound for Tarshish. Shortly after boarding Jonah goes to sleep and the tempest starts to rage. The people on the boat fear for their life. After a while Jonah confesses that The Lord is after him and tell the people to throw him over board and they will be spared. They don’t want to but eventually they throw ‘ into what seems to be a watery grave.

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Jonah And The Whale

The Lord had prepared a big fish to swallow Jonah. For three days he was in the belly of a giant fish or whale. Near death, Jonah finally comes around to repenting of his rebellion. The Lord forgives him and has the fish deposit him on dry ground.

The Lord calls him to preach at Nineveh again. This time Jonah agrees to follow the direction of The Lord. Ninevah is the Capitol city of the wicked Assyrians. It is a huge city by the standards of the day. It was so big geographically that it took three days journey to pass through.

Keep in mind the Nineveh is a very wicked city (Nahum 3:1-5) and Jonah has to walk a day’s journey before he preaches the gospel to them. He preaches to them and they believe and repent. This includes their wicked King. They cover themselves in sack cloth and ashes which is a deliberate sign of repentance. The Lord forgives them.

Jonah leaves the city and climbs a hill over looking the now righteous city of Nineveh and builds himself a simple shelter to sit in while he watches to see if the Lord will destroy the newly repented city. He is very hot and dry. He see’s that The Lord spared the city as He said He would if they repented. The Lord provides a plant over night the grows to provide shade and comfort to Jonah. Jonah is grateful to the plant for its shade. The next day the Lord kills the plant and Jonah grieves for the loss of the plant.

The Lord explains to him that just as Jonah loves the plant, The Lord loves those thousands of people in Nineveh and spared them from destruction because they repented. He teaches Jonah a very important lesson. God loves all his children all over the world.

This is a fantastic story. Full of lessons one can apply to ones self for profit and learning. It teaches the principles of faith, hope, mercy of The Lord, repentance, forgiveness, God’s love for

His children and the power of one person with Gods help.

More than anything else, the virtues of Hope and Repentance stand out. When Jonah was in the belly of the whale he had faith and prayed to God for forgiveness of his sins in running away and rebelling against God. God forgave Jonah. In His mercy, God is willing to forgive those who repent. It requires faith to pray and ask for forgiveness from God. It requires faith to repent when you have been wicked all your life; Jonah was an inspired teacher. Jonah was one man in the midst of his mortal enemy but with Gods help, the power of one is the power of God.

God loved Jonah and tried to rescue Him from his sins. God loved the people of Nineveh and did not want to destroy Nineveh but God cannot look upon sin with the least degree of allowance. He gave the people a chance to repent through Jonah. Thankfully these thousands of people did repent and they were forgiven.

Strangely, Jonah still struggled and didn’t really want the people of Nineveh spared. That’s why he built a hut on top of the hill to see if they would be spared. As the days wore on Jonah was very hot with the sun beating down on him. God made a vine or plant to cover his hut and provide shade, a welcome relief from the heat of the sun. Then the Lord killed the plant and the protection from the heat was gone. The Lord provided a strong East wind and combined the elements to go against Jonah to drive the point home. Jonah mourned for the lost of the plant. The Lord explained to Jonah that as he grieved for the lost of a simple plant, God would feel bad for the loss of his people in Nineveh. The lesson was on love and that God loves all his people.

Whether the people are our enemies or criminals or otherwise bad people. God loves all His children. This was the last lesson we have record of, in which Jonah was taught a lesson. From this great story we see that God loves all His children. He doesn’t always love what they do or what the have become, He loves them and wants them back to live with Him someday. But they must change their ways, repent and live righteously.

This story is a message of hope. This story teaches us of Gods mercy and forgiveness provided we repent. This message shows us that even prophets are human and need to repent. If they being so righteous need to repent then so must we. But that is a part of that great hope we can have. It is a story of faith. It’s a great teaching tool teaching us that there are consequences to sin and unless we repent then we will reap the consequences of sin.

Learn From Then Forget The Mistakes Of The Past

Forget the mistakes of the past except to learn from them with the hope of not repeating them.

Don’t let fear of the unknown stifle the happiness of the here and now.

Enjoy life and receive the happiness reserve for those who have a positive attitude. truth_both_sides_story

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